The day before we were to leave for NY, my father asked my son, “What are we going to do tomorrow when you wake up?”

Carter’s response: “Well, first I’m going to go to the potty.”

One of the first things you’re taught as a teacher of young children (or you learn the hard way) is that preschool-age children love, thrive on and need predictability.  This is one way of giving them the control that they crave at this age.

The first and easiest way to make your preschooler’s life predictable is through their Daily Schedule.  For those of you who are not fans of schedules, bare with me.  I am not at all suggesting that you do the same thing constantly and totally take the fun out of life.   I am suggesting that you allot the same blocks of time in your day for certain activities.  For example, mornings always occur in the same order.  Days have a flow that is easy to follow.  Meals at home have the same rules and expectations each time we sit down.  Bedtime is always the same.

Wake up
Use the bathroom
Eat breakfast
Watch 2 shows
Get dressed
Have Lunch
Run Errands

Because there are certain times in your day that will always be changing, it helps to have a “What Are We Going To Do Today” conversation over breakfast.  Certainly, this would require not eating breakfast in front of the tv, but at a table.  It takes only 15 minutes of your time, and I promise that it’s worth the effort.  I have a job that requires me to often go several places each day.  With a preschooler in tow, this can be a huge challenge or a big adventure.  Each morning I tell him where we’ll be going after lunch that day.  If I don’t initiate the conversation, he will.  Children like to know your plans for them.  When they do, they are more likely to be cooperative.

Running errands and going into stores can be a challenge all it’s own.  One thing to make this easier on yourself and your child is through a little Proactive Discipline.  Before getting out of the car at a store, talk about how you expect your child to act in a store (and why) and the consequences that will certainly happen if he does not follow those expectations.  This can be as simple as: “When we go into the store I need you to stay close to me so that I know you’re safe.  If you walk away from me, you will need to ride in the shopping cart until we leave.”

When Carter was much younger he went through a (very trying) time of screaming whenever we went into a store.  Though it was difficult for me, no amount of talking or punishment helped his behavior.  My discipline was Reactive rather than Proactive.  He would scream and I would get embarrassed and start with the threats and harsh tones.  However, once I told him that it was not ok for him to scream in a store and doing so would mean that we had to leave the store immediately, the behavior stopped within days.  I tell you this to stress that if you tell your child there is a consequence, go ahead and steel yourself to follow through on that promise at least once.  Once you become predictable and your child fully understand that you say what you mean and you mean what you say, consequences will have to be used less and less often.  They will know there’s no need to test you.  If you back down or “forget” even once, they’ll remember and you’ll be going back to square one.

When your child behaves correctly, thank him and praise him.  Do yourself a favor and never use the “if you…then I’ll…” method for managing your child’s behavior in a store (or anywhere else).  Always strive to teach your child to do the right thing because it is the right thing, not because of what they will get as a result.  Once the reward becomes external, it is very difficult to teach them to internalize it again.  And, it gets expensive!

Each child is different and each child comes with their own set of challenges, but adding a little predictability to their days can go a long way!


Circle Time

After 2 months of pretty raunchy morning sickness, I am back with a renewed energy for teaching Carter from home.

To start with, the blog has a new look and feel to it.  I hope that it makes activities easier to find and is more visually appealing.

I’ve also made all the materials for each month accessible to Carter for the entire month, instead of one at time then gone.  I couldn’t keep the materials we were using in his playroom for what I think are pretty obvious reasons, so I hijacked his black shelf and moved it to our dining room.  We aren’t fortunate enough to have an entire room to dedicate to making our own in-home Montessori school, so I’ve taken (and will continue to take) parts of our house over with school materials – in the most beautiful and organized way I can manage, of course.

Yesterday we began to have Circle Time.  I got the idea to put all of our calendar materials on a cork board to make it portable.  I’m able to store it in the living room so that I can be sure that it is treated nicely and then I can move it to Carter’s room for our morning Circle Time.

Circle Time setup with the portable Calendar board

I begin this time with the song It’s A Beautiful Day by Greg and Steve.

There are several songs that we sing as we move through the parts of the calendar.  There are many, many choices for days of the week and months of the year songs out there.  I like these 2 for their simplicity and repetition:

Months of the Year

Days of the Week

Then we work through the calendar

I bought the blank calendar at Sta.ples because I had some reward dollars to use, but if you have a teacher’s supply store nearby they will have more choices.

The calendar pieces can also be found already cut and laminated at a teacher’s supply store.  You can also print them for free here.  This site is where I found the umbrellas.  Of course, even more free and just as effective are post it notes that you write your own numbers on.

It may be difficult to see, but there is a clip on the number 9.  I use that as our marker to keep up with which day we are on.

Below the calendar are Days of the Week pockets.  I made those out of construction paper and printed/glued the names of the days on them, though you can purchase colorful pockets if you wish.  In the pockets, there are 3 sticks that read: Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow.

The month cards can be printed for free from Montessori for Everyone.  They also have a great Calendar Activity Set that includes a lot of the things you’ll need to make your own calendar under “Free Downloads”.

Carter has been fascinated with the moon from a very young age, so when I found these moon phase cards I knew that it would be something that would excite him.  And, since I’m no astronomer, I found a month-by-month cheat sheet to know when to change the cards.

I printed the weather cards from the Weather Unit on kidssoup.

Before we choose the weather for the day, we sing:

Weather Song
(to the tune of “Oh My Darling”)
What’s the weather?
What’s the weather?
What’s the weather, today?
Is it windy?
Is it cloudy?
Is there rain?
Or is there sun?

The beautiful season cards are also a freebie from Montessori for Everyone.

After the calendar, we sing a fun song that gets us up and moving.  Then, we close by Carter sitting in my lap and singing Special Me by Dr. Jean.  This is a precious song that celebrates the wonder of your child.

Enjoy and thank you for your comments!

Education Begins at Birth

Shockingly diverse kindergarten group in Paris

Image via Wikipedia

One thing that Maria stressed was the need to better understand children’s capabilities.

Sensitive Periods

birth – 3 years        Absorbent Mind
Sensory Experiences

1 1/2 – 3 years        Language Development

1 1/2 – 4 years        Coordination and Muscle Development
Interest in Small Objects

2 – 4 years                Refinement of movement
Concern with truth and reality
Aware of order sequence in time and space

2 1/2 – 6 years         Sensory refinement

3 – 6 years                Susceptibilty to adult influence

3 1/2 – 4 1/2 years  Writing

4 – 4 1/2 years         Tactile sense

4 1/2 – 5 1/2 years  Reading

I would love to hear where your child is and some ideas of how you’re making the best of where your child is right now.

Looking over this list and thinking about where Carter is now and the periods we’ve come through, I definitely saw his language development BOOM from 1 1/2 to 3.  At the one year point I wasn’t sure he’d ever say “mama”.  I constantly prompted him “Say mama, say mama.” and he would just smile.  Around 15 months I couldn’t imagine why he didn’t have something to say.  After all, from the first night he came home, he was read to constantly.  I flipped out whenever anyone would attempt to sit him in front of a tv.  I talked to him ALL the time and still there were no words.

Around 18 months, the light bulbs coming on in his language development were evident every day.  It was as if he has stored up every word he had heard in those 18 months and he began to let them flow to the tune of 10-20 new words each day.  I started trying to keep a list, but I lost track.

Today, he’s 3 years 2 months.  We have hilarious and interesting conversations.  Though there are days when the word “Mommy” loses all meaning from the sheer number of times it’s uttered, there’s nothing I love more than communicating with my son.